Sometimes I feel a little tortured like Van Gogh, except I still have both of my ears. I don’t really know how he felt, or what possessed him to whack off an ear, but perhaps we share some of the same existential questions, like who am I, what am I doing, why am I doing it, and why am I here?
This morning I parked myself in my Lazygirl and promptly wasted an hour and a half fiddling around with useless trivia on my iPad. Did I meditate? No. Did I journal or write a long-overdue blog? No. Did I do anything that was worthwhile with my time? No. I’ve been doing a lot of that lately. Wasting time.
Oh but wait! Who said it was a waste of time? Who made that decision, based on what? And who determines what is a worthwhile use of time and what isn’t? Or anything else, for that matter. Who decides?
Finally, when I came to my senses and settled down to meditate, I was immediately beset with remorse over my lack of self-discipline. As the cloud cover of guilt started rolling in to derail my good intentions, a blessed wind of relief came along from behind and blew it off into the ethers.
Yes, okay, so you think that you wasted time. But that doesn’t mean that you have to stay stuck in a state of despair over your dalliance. You can just acknowledge that you might have preferred to have taken another path and move on.
Well that sounds like a really good plan, right?
It makes me wonder—how much precious time have I wasted guilting myself over thinking that I have wasted time? How many hours throughout my lifetime have I spent berating myself for things that I did that I shouldn’t have, or things that I should have done that I didn’t? Or for Heaven-only-knows how many other ‘sins’ I committed?
It occurs to me that we make life up as we go, day by day, minute by minute. We decide what to think, how to feel, and whether time is wasted or well spent. I’ve used up more than my fair share of time wallowing around in my wrongdoings rather than congratulating myself for the things I’ve done well. Why is that? Why does it seem so hard to turn the light to the right?
I’m blaming it all on the ego. I wonder how much of the world population suffers from the same tyranny of the ego’s antics that I sometimes do, the bullying that would have me believe that I am a guilty sinner—oh for shame, for shame? I would guess that the number would be astronomical.
I can hang out in my Lazygirl and idle my time away staring at a TV screen, or conjure up a myriad of other imaginative ways to whittle away the hours. But the question becomes: what am I going to do about it? Will I decide to change the channel and watch another version of my belief system?
So I ask myself—which is the worst ‘sin’? Is it time wasted frittering away hours indulging in useless trivia? Or is it time wasted berating oneself for wasting time with useless trivia? Now that would be the true definition of wasting time.
So who I am is me. And why I’m here is to learn whatever it is that I need to know in order to exit this lifetime with both ears still attached to the sides of my head. Nobody ever said it would be easy, right? Experience has taught me that life is easier when lived in the light than in the dark.
Yesterday two friends mentioned that they haven’t seen any blogs recently. They would be right. I haven’t written any. Why? Have I been wasting time? Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe I’ve just been spending precious time storing up energy and gathering my wits for whatever is coming next. Sometimes there is a need to step back and regroup.
Life. It’s all about how you look at it. Or see it. Or decide how you feel about it. We have the freedom of choice, and none of it is right, or wrong. It just is what it is. What matters is how we feel about it and what we do or don’t do about it. We are blessed with free will to do as we wish, and isn’t that wonderous thing?
When I leave the planet, I plan on taking all of my bodily parts and pieces along with me by reason of sanity. All I need to do to get there from here is to change the channel and look to the light.
Note: The photo above is courtesy of New Waves of Light, a website designed by anonymous individuals around the world who share the intention of bringing light and love to a world of darkness and chaos. (newwavesoflight.org or NWOL.us)
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Awesome job Jules. Love it. Pamela
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Thanks Pamela! ❤️
Oh dearest Jewels, your penultimate graf sez it all! And so beautifully. Of course you needed all of your well written blog to get to that, but it’s a Wow! Thank you! You don’t need to write allthetime but please please do keep writing some of the time when the spirit moves you! You have a wonderful writing gift coupled with useful wisdom. I need to read your writings!
I have just spent a week not wasting time, but boyohboy am I ever wasted! My convent friend Marianne from NJ, who I think you may have met, is a physical wreck. COPD. Back, hip, shoulder, foot & elbow issues, blind in her left eye, macular generation in the right, plus brain fog. Her husband is worn out caretaking. So after her Covid and our first vaccines, I invited her to our fully accessible Rehoboth home for R&R for both of them. It was to be 2 weeks, she accepted for one. Her sons did the delivery and return trips. She left late yesterday and I crawled into bed last night where I still am! I may remain here for another week, who knows?
Such a cautionary tale of not taking care of oneself, A mostly sedentary life plus not doing PT when needed. And settling for good enough and “oh this’ll do.” I just learned (relearned?) a lot about my dear friend and about myself. Gotta keep plugging away. Gotta keep the brain operative. Gotta eat well. Gotta move around, maybe not tons, but at least a little. Gotta connect with friends. Etcetera. Pierce was wonderful — but Piercey in a wheelchair, Marianne on a walker, both needing to be waited on constantly, and two jumbo dogs always always always in the way makes moi a tired puppy. So I’m taking today off. Fire in the fireplace, heating pad under my aching back as I write to you. Sublime comfort. Enough leftovers from yummy meals and baking for us to forage from. So all is well here on this rainy lazy day! Today I am a happy (and yes relieved) happy puppy!
sending tons of love to you, my awesome friend! — ginny💘
Ginny Daly 202.420.9550 5401 Potomac Ave NW, WDC 20016 7 Tidewater, Rehoboth Beach, DE 19971 “Anything worth doing is worth overdoing”
Exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you.
I enjoyed your blog Rosemary! I found it on FB shared by Shannon Jordan, also a Presbyterian minister. Shannon is married to my nephew, John. Do you know her?
I do, indeed! I count her as one of my friends. I am semi-retired and so my husband and I have been worshipping virtually with her quite a bit this year.
If you see her before I do, please give hr a virtual hug for me! me!
If you see her before I do, please give her a virtual hug for me!